Early Marriage; yay or nay?

As I am a healthy almost-18 y/o girl, of course I have thoughts about marriage.

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For example, how will my wedding looks like?

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Indoor? Outdoor? Beach? Church? JK (Nauzubillah, istighfar Allya!)

Who will I marry?

Ooooh, I wanna marry these guys!!! ♥∪♥

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Dapat satu pun jadi lah xD

And the list goes on. Although I love the idea of getting married; but at this age is a no no for me. Why?

Well…………………………………………………

I wrote this post because I got myself into a fight (mouth only, mind you. I don’t beat women) with this one lady because she insisted on marrying off her daughter even though she’s still young; probably around my age. Her daughter pun layan je mak dia. Stupid.

Oh yeah, when I was living in Malaysia (I still am tho xD), getting married at a young age is like an everyday occurrence (I’m over writing this xD). I have friends who got married as young as 15 y/o. Crazy? I know, I was really shocked when I heard about it.

Like hallooooooo~ I’m here stressing about my school, exams and stuff yet you’re worrying about your family! That’s crazy man 0.0

So back to the topic. First, what is marriage? Heterosexual or not, marriage means having a legal bond with a certain someone. I’m not agreeing with this whole LGBT thingy but then again, it’s your choice (as long as you’re not a Muslim). Whether you love that person or not, once you say the ‘I do’ word then bam! He or she is yours. But what is a marriage without love?

Getting married means that you’ll have to see that person 24/7.

When you wake up, they’re there.

When you’re going to sleep, they’re next to you.

Basically, you’ll be stuck with that person; until Jannah, Insyallah.

So marrying someone who you don’t love is technically like living with some stranger in the same house. Not to mention that you have to do the deed (pervy Allya >///,\\\<)

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“And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your hearts. Undoubtedly in these are signs for those who reflect.” [Holy Quran 30:21]

“And Allah has made for you your mates of your own nature, and made for you, out of them, sons and daughters and grandchildren, and provided for your sustenance of the best.” [Holy Quran 16:72]

Those verses of the Holy Quran clearly show that Islam considers marriage as one of the most virtuous and approved institutions. The Messenger of Allah swt. declared, “There is no monasticism in Islam.” He further ordained,

“O you young men! Whoever is able to marry should marry, for that will help him to lower his gaze and guard his modesty.” [Al-Bukhari]

Modesty was regarded as a great virtue by the Prophet. He said, “Modesty is part of faith.” [Al-Bukhari]

The importance of the institution or marriage receives its greatest emphasis from the following Hadith of the Prophet,

“Marriage is my Sunnah. Whosoever keeps away from it is not from me.”

With those Quranic injunctions and the guidance from the Prophet saw. in mind, we can see that in my religion; marriage is a good thing but if you’re still acting like a child, then please, just DON’T!

Yes, yes I know. People change. Though I doubt that you’ll change in a short amount of time.

For example; let’s just say that I was to get married this instant. I would object to it. Like literally object it.

Hello, I woke up when the sun is high.

You need to give me at least 20 minutes to find things in my room since they’re like the insides of a wrecked ship.

Cooking? I am a great cook but to cook every single day, no thank you.

Not to mention that I like to hang out and have fun a lot.

Memang tak lah nak jadi mak orang. Jaga diri pun tak pass, inikan nak jaga orang. Hmmmm… Memang tak lah -_-“

So the question is; is an early marriage a pros or a cons?

  • Great looks ✓
  • Great cook ✓
  • Love cleanness ✓
  • A loving and kind hearted wife ✓
  • Love children lots ✓

Well, if you have those kind of qualities a.k.a. a womanly woman, I mean a woman amongst women, then go ahead and get married. But if you’re still like me and the reason why you want to get married is just because, then don’t. You’ll regret it for life.

Why is it a con?

 There is a reason why we are studying until the age of 20-ish. It’s because until we reach that age, we are practically kids (with a huge body). People might argue that it’s ok to juggle between your marriage and studies. I know some people who can do it but not so much. My grandmother got married at an early age. While she didn’t really regret it when she was younger, she regrets it a lot these days a.k.a. when she is older. She said that before, when people her age are all hanging out with friends and all, she had to stayed in and took care of her little family. It was fun but when she’s older, she realizes that she didn’t miss those times because she didn’t live it through. You’ll literally lost your young adult life.

So friends, nak kawin awal ke? Think about your future, your children and your beloved as well. Okay 😉

Though if you still wanna get married then go ahead. This is just my personal opinion. Then again, Allah swt. have arrange everything for us. Who knows, maybe I’m the one who’s going to get married at a young age -_-” Ironic.

Tata~

P.S. I’m not that bad of a woman. Do marry me xD

P.P.S. I just realize that this post was targeted towards women, tehee~~~ I’ll write one about my opinions on boys and early marriage. MAYBEEEE~~~

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